Sunday, February 24, 2013

Resolving Regrets



Today in Elders' Quorum we had a lesson based off of Elder Uchtdorf's talk from the October General Conference. It is a talk I've listened to a few times since hearing it in conference and it amazes me that, just like scripture, each time we listen to or read those talks from the leaders of the church, we change. And I mean that in the way that we gain more from them, even different things, because we change. We go through different things over time and the Lord knows this. Which is why we are encouraged to always be studying the scriptures. We should be reading the scriptures daily- not because they change, but because every day, we change. 

This talk is such a great insight to how we often get stuck in life. We may easily find that we get stuck in a rut. We feel regret for not just the past but in the present. We want to be further along and further ahead. Perhaps the success of those who once were in the same place in life is almost torture for us to see. I understand that and feel it regularly. But we need to follow the counsel of the prophet in taking a more realistic look at our lives. Understand that we are, where we are. You are only going to change that by what you do today- not what you didn't do yesterday. Stop focusing on your faults, failures and regrets and choose to be happy. Choose to live your days.. like today, in the best way possible. 

Those ways that are best for us to live will change and vary through time and the course of life but Elder Uchtdorf speaks of three most common regrets of those who are on their death beds. As he speaks of in his talk- there is a nurse who makes a point to ask her patients what they regret most and what they would change. I'll leave you to look over these highlights from the talk and review it yourself. I like to watch them so I can see as well as hear. 

         ~Spend more time with those we love.
         ~Strive more earnestly to become the person God wants us to be.
         ~Find happiness, regardless of our circumstances.
        

Announcing that we will dedicate more time for family prayer, scripture study, and wholesome family activities is good; but actually doing all these things steadily will bring heavenly blessings to our lives.

So often we get caught up in the illusion that there is something just beyond our reach that would bring us happiness: a better family situation, a better financial situation, or the end of a challenging trial. (I've talked about this before- and I will again soon)

What we need to do is find a way to be happy with where we are now and stop holding out for the future. We are meant to be happy, to have joy, and to share that with those around us. So lets focus on that and stop letting our faults hold us back. This reminds me of one of my favorite quotes.

"it's hard to beat a person who never gives up" Babe Ruth


The older we get, the more we look back and realize that external circumstances don’t really matter or determine our happiness.
We do matter. We determine our happiness.
You and I are ultimately in charge of our own happiness.
Sometimes in life we become so focused on the finish line that we fail to find joy in the journey. 

We shouldn’t wait to be happy until we reach some future point, only to discover that happiness was already available—all the time! Life is not meant to be appreciated only in retrospect. “This is the day which the Lord hath made … ,” the Psalmist wrote. “Rejoice and be glad in it.”
His Atonement allows us to leave the past behind and move forward with clean hands, a pure heart, and a determination to do better and especially to become better.

So let us put this into practice and apply His atonement to our lives. Take courage for we are in control of our destiny. We choose what attitude we look at life with and where ours is heading. As I've said before...  "Have faith. Trust yourself and trust in God. And if you start to feel overwhelmed... just focus on baby steps. One week at a time, one day at a time,  one task to do and you will do it. Maybe not the first time and definitely not every time. But we don't practice because we're the best at something: we practice because as we fail and push on... we change. And that change makes all the difference." Steven Hatch



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